“I’m just a hot mess,” said one mother. Her eyes were swollen with tears looking over the toys scattered over the living room floor. “But how can I do anything positive when I can’t keep up with loads of laundry and my work life?” another woman added.
I was this mom and have talked to many others on the verge of emotional collapse. They, like me, assumed they had nothing to offer anymore. Some were working, some were stay-at-home moms. Either way, we all have something of substance to contribute.
“I see so many women who have it all together. They work, have kids, their houses are spotless, they bake and are part of the PTA,” another mom chorused.
“There’s no such thing as a superwoman. If there is, she’s drained and masks those moments thoroughly under makeup,” I clarified.
We all nodded and giggled instantly.
And yet, we discovered the whole time, us gals were helping each other out! By sharing and being honest – shouting perhaps, we don’t have it all together — makes us amazing. Yes, untidy hair buns, coffee-stained shirts and wearing the same yoga pants for two days (or more) still makes us shine.
We all have a story to tell. We all have something of significance to support and boost others. Your experiences can lead others to a better path in life, even during those messy panicky moments.
You don’t have to be famous, a pastor or have an extraordinary career. No one is perfect. We all stumble in many ways and we all have sinned falling short of the glory of God. Our stories are waiting to be given and shown to others, it’s our history — a way to connect with people.
When someone says they’re a failure because they don’t measure themselves meritorious of having anything to contribute, this is a distortion. All the misadventures we go through, give us with knowledge. Start small, maybe begin a Bible study, a small coffee group or start a podcast or a blog. Take a walk and thank God for all the things He’s done. When we offer praise and are grateful for our blessings, it empowers our walk with God.
All of us can make contributions — hot mess moms and all.
“But you are a chosen generation, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, His own special people, that you may proclaim the praises of Him who called you out of darkness into His marvelous light, (1 Peter 2:9).”